Hi everyone!!!
How are you all??
This post is dedicated to all girls who are married and also going to get married especially in India!!
When I was studying Eighth standard, my parents arranged marriage for my sister. I was too young that I didn't know anything about marriage. My focus was only on purchasing new dress and enjoying with relatives and friends. I still remember how my sister cried when leaving our house. Now I have to tell about our custom. After marriage, bride must leave her house and should stay with her husband in his house.
And life at husband's house is not easy. Girls has to take care of her husband, must act in a way to please her mother-in-law, father-in-law etc. The main part is girls have to stay away from her parents.
Is it really necessary for girls to leave their parents after marriage? And even if she wants to see her parents after marriage, she has to ask permission from her husband, mother-in-law, father-in-law etc. Our parents are the ones who shared and helped us at the time of sadness and happiness. And all of a sudden we are forced to stay away from them.
Leaving our house in which we were born, grown gives us a insecure feeling. But boys are allowed to stay with their parents. Then why girls have this weird customs? I don't know whether parents like this custom. I couldn't understand their feelings. But as a girl I have some opinions and feelings. Even thinking about leaving my parents leads to shivering!!
But my parents are so keen in getting me married. Maybe they want to get rid of me! I think nearly 90% of the world doesn't know about arranged marriage. But here our culture, grows children by telling," Don't ever fall in love with someone and spoil our family's name". And if a girl falls in love accidentally, then that's the end. We restrain ourselves from loving someone else believing that our parents could find us a very good match. But that also turns against us.
How much ever our parents look for a boy, it is really hard to get a good one with good family. Then the thought of failure starts haunting us. We start thinking that the life would have been better if we had married our secret love!!!
And another one weird custom, If a boy falls in love, the whole family will support him but when it comes to girls, there will be totally opposite reaction from parents. Why is it so? Is it because of the fact that Men are more superior than women??
Don't we have the freedom to even fall in love with a person who loves us???
How are you all??
This post is dedicated to all girls who are married and also going to get married especially in India!!
When I was studying Eighth standard, my parents arranged marriage for my sister. I was too young that I didn't know anything about marriage. My focus was only on purchasing new dress and enjoying with relatives and friends. I still remember how my sister cried when leaving our house. Now I have to tell about our custom. After marriage, bride must leave her house and should stay with her husband in his house.
And life at husband's house is not easy. Girls has to take care of her husband, must act in a way to please her mother-in-law, father-in-law etc. The main part is girls have to stay away from her parents.
Is it really necessary for girls to leave their parents after marriage? And even if she wants to see her parents after marriage, she has to ask permission from her husband, mother-in-law, father-in-law etc. Our parents are the ones who shared and helped us at the time of sadness and happiness. And all of a sudden we are forced to stay away from them.
Leaving our house in which we were born, grown gives us a insecure feeling. But boys are allowed to stay with their parents. Then why girls have this weird customs? I don't know whether parents like this custom. I couldn't understand their feelings. But as a girl I have some opinions and feelings. Even thinking about leaving my parents leads to shivering!!
But my parents are so keen in getting me married. Maybe they want to get rid of me! I think nearly 90% of the world doesn't know about arranged marriage. But here our culture, grows children by telling," Don't ever fall in love with someone and spoil our family's name". And if a girl falls in love accidentally, then that's the end. We restrain ourselves from loving someone else believing that our parents could find us a very good match. But that also turns against us.
How much ever our parents look for a boy, it is really hard to get a good one with good family. Then the thought of failure starts haunting us. We start thinking that the life would have been better if we had married our secret love!!!
And another one weird custom, If a boy falls in love, the whole family will support him but when it comes to girls, there will be totally opposite reaction from parents. Why is it so? Is it because of the fact that Men are more superior than women??
Don't we have the freedom to even fall in love with a person who loves us???
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